PREFACE
At about 4 years ago, occasionally i found a destiny forum website in china, considerable serious but still healthy atmosphere for discussion, i dropped by for a short period time participating in the bazi reading for life destiny enquiries from reader members.As my reply always started with " i am not a da-si (big master) but just a visitor passed by and come across your enquiry, nevertheless i would like to share with my view foryour enquir ". Since then, many members began to address me as "pass-by da-si" requesting me for answering and viewpoints. Below is one of the enquiry case.
CASE
Enquiry from a female member in September:
May I ask the teachers here to check my marriage luck. Presently I am single. This year (2011) July I broke up with my bog friend whom we had been together for 1.5 year. Everytime I fell in love with someone often not smooth and successful way out. May I bother the bazi teachers here to check when my love luck will come and when my marriage will come. I do not wish to get hurt again, lost in love is really painful.
Four pillars
Year Month Day Time
正财 比肩 日柱 偏官
坤造： 丁 壬 壬 戊
卯 寅 子 申 空亡(寅卯)
10-years luck cycle
大运：癸卯 甲辰 乙巳 丙午 丁未 戊申 己酉 庚戌
始于：1987 1997 2007 2017 2027 2037 2047 2057
My reply:
How are you, i just passed-by, since fated to see your enquiry, i would like to share my view in brief.
As per yr bazi, the boy friend you broke off in July this year, you first met and knew him in last year at end of Spring, then getting close and hot with each fast in short period of time. However, by Autumn-Winter both of you gradually realised each other having big different in characters, interests and temper, the used-to-be hot close relationship was since then cooling down into distance.
Since the love feel and emotion had been cooling off, his heart at you was already away,, you ever tried all efforts to retain and maintain but no longer into effect. So, the broke-off in July was a final decision to let go.If two beings love each other into together and marriage are destined, there would be no need to force each other into it, where both already realised the fact at having unmatched character, interest and temper. (# 1. see the member's reply at the bottom)
In fact you can ask yourself honestly whether he was really the type and the ideal one for marriage throughout your life. (#2)
Both of you met-up accidentally at the time when both had been long in plain and mono color living then into fast accepting each others with excitements and fun from talks and get-together. Due to after a period of time you already got too-used to having him around and together, now all of a sudden without him, you feel emptiness and lost as not yet used to so but also unwilling to release and let go.(#3)
In fact, he had been long unable to tolerate your bad temper and others, thats why led to his decisive broke-off in July. (#4)
If my analysis is wrong and offensive, please accept my appologies so. (#5)
Your true love would have to wait till 2016, by then wedding may happen within 2 years. You are very young, why not go enjoying the freedom and fun life from being young single, the life-time love partner can be slowly and surely for choosing, hurry and rush do not help any to it.
Here, wish you best of luck
Tien Sum
The member replied on next day:
# 1. Yes, because of our characters, interest and temper unmatch, we often had quarrels and conflicts. Therefore, unable to go on further.
# 2. Correct, while the time I was still having him around me, I was looking for and forwards if a better one might come to me.
#3. Because I had been giving out too much, now much or less feeling uneasy and sorrow for such let-go so. But we were surely not just for games and funs bringing us together.
#4. Correct, my temper was very bad, and often threw complaints to him.
#5. Teacher, what you said above was very accurate.
May I ask teacher to check again for really so my true-love one will come in 2016, by 2018 wedding? I wish not to be hurt again as now i know how the pain likes.
My reply:
No problem, as by 2017 you would be entering into a new 10-years luck cycle (丙午). As forecasted, by the time wedding will take place, how could it be heart-hurting. You should have confidential on yourself, however, bearing in mind you need to more effects on retreating and control your bad temper. As guys naturally love faces (digity), mutual respects and patient and step-back for each others have to be maintained. This would also be to avoid hurting each other.
The member replied:
Thank you, teacher for your direction guide.
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多年前 作客一大陆术数网站. 有一网友发问:
请老师进来看下姻缘，我目前是单身。今年阳历7月的时候和我处了一年半的男朋友和我分手了。每次谈感情是不能顺利，麻烦老师看看我的姻缘什么时候来，什么时候会结婚。不想再受伤害了，失恋好痛苦啊！
八字：
正财 比肩 日柱 偏官
坤造： 丁 壬 壬 戊
卯 寅 子 申 空亡(寅卯)
大运：癸卯 甲辰 乙巳 丙午 丁未 戊申 己酉 庚戌
始于：1987 1997 2007 2017 2027 2037 2047 2057
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天心回答：
你好，我只路过的，试略为推算。你今年7月分手的男友，是在前年约春季尾认识，属快热，但至秋冬渐感性格脾气差异而生距离降温。然而感情早已冷, 他心已早离开，, 你曾经尝试挽留也没有用, 7月分手去意已决。姻缘天定，何必强求，况且性格不合，你可实自问，他老实非你内心所祈望理想的终身伴侣型，只为机遇于当时能互诉玩乐解闷吧, 又习惯了, 而突然失去，有点不甘心又失落吧 。然而你的脾气性格令他受不了, 导致早点分手。若有说错得罪，请原谅！真命天子，要等到2016而俩年内婚嫁可达。你尚年青，可多享受自由玩乐人生，终身伴侣可慢慢来选择，也急不了。在此祝你好运!!
会员回答：
你今年7月分手的男友，是在前年约春季尾认识，属快热，但至秋冬渐感性格脾气差异而生距离降温。然而感情早已冷, 他心已早离开，, 你曾经尝试挽留也没有用, 7月分手去意已决。姻缘天定，何必强求，况且性格不合，(是的我们就是因为性格不合，争执多所以走不下去）你可实自问，他老实非你内心所祈望理想的终身伴侣型，（正确，我跟他一起时也在寻觅更好的另一半）只为机遇于当时能互诉玩乐解闷吧, 又习惯了, 而突然失去，有点不甘心又失落吧 。（因为付出了，多少都有点不甘心，但是绝对没有是为了玩乐解闷而一起的）然而你的脾气性格令他受不了, 导致早点分手。（正确，我脾气很不好，又经常抱怨他）若有说错得罪，请原谅！（老师说得很正确）真命天子，要等到2016而俩年内婚嫁可达。你尚年青，可多享受自由玩乐人生，终身伴侣可慢慢来选择，也急不了。在此祝你好运!!
那请问老师我真真命天子2016年出现，2018年之前可成婚对吗？麻烦老师再看看！我主要是不想再受伤了。这次真让我知道什么叫痛了.
天心回答：
可，那已于2017年进入新一大运(丙午)。既为结婚，何来伤心，应对自己有信心，然而你的脾气要多作点收敛，男子总爱面子，互忍让尊重难免的。也可避免伤感情。
会员回答：谢谢老师的指点。
